If you ever flown you’ve heard and seen the very important safety presentations. I must admit I really don’t listen closely because I’ve never heard ANYONE testify to the fact that the instructions were life saving. However, there is something that they say that has my complete attention every time I hear it………I THINK ABOUT US WOMEN and how many of us would die trying to save someone else. If you haven’t figured out the line yet, here it is:
PUT ON YOUR OWN OXYGEN MASK BEFORE HELPING THOSE AROUND YOU!!
You know exactly where I’m going! As women we need to care as much about ourselves as we do others. We will cry for and with others but won’t cry with or without others for ourselves. We will move mountains for others BUT we will not do it for ourselves.
Have you ever thought of what the world of the people we love would be like, if we were not present? And when I say “not present” I’m not talking about death necessarily (but If you don’t prioritize and take care of you……that could be possible). Present simply means – being available in the moment. We are not present when we have the to do’s of everybody else on our shoulders. We miss important life moments because we make the choice not to make ourselves a PRIORITY.
At some point I realized I was running around without my oxygen mask. I was the one doing it all, yes ma’am, yes sir a modern day SUPERWOMAN!! YOU could always count on me…………ALWAYS!! I’m not encouraging you NOT to be helpful or giving but I’M STRONGLY RECOMMENDING you TAKE the time you need to BREATH (it’s kinds important). Secure your own oxygen mask before attempting to help those around you.
My thought is when you do what you do so good, people don’t usually stop and think about asking you to give more and more without considering, THEY MAY NOT BE THE ONLY ONES PULLING ON YOU. And when you are naturally a giver YOU MAY NOT ALWAYS USE YOUR GOD GIVEN GREAT SENSE TO SAY NO OR I CAN’T (without it feeling personal but it’s not personal it’s business….wait it’s your personal business to take care of you). Don’t worry about people, they’ll learn to respect your space and YOU for creating it (and if they don’t…..they aren’t FOR YOU ANYHOW)!
You NEED to be the one who creates boundaries for yourself, because If you don’t LIFE will force you to do so. Schedule yourself some down time, glam time, or just quiet time (yes without your PHONE and those munchkins). Don’t be like me and have to learn the HARD WAY!
WE MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE, WHEN WE CAN BE PRESENT AND GIVE FROM OUR ABUNDANCE OF SELF LOVE. AIN’T NOBODY GOING TO LOVE YOU, BETTER THAN YOU, LOVE YOU!!!